ThoughtBubble: Complaining

It's human nature to complain, I understand that. If something doesn't go our way, chances are the first thing we do is to complain. We didn't get top marks? Complain. We didn't buy the item we wanted? Complain. Come to think of it, my countrymen are extremely good at complaining about every single trivial thing.

Yes, I understand complaining to someone allows you a mini rant session, to get things off your chest. But if you go on and on about it, that's a different story. Spare a thought for your poor mate who has to endure your constant whinging. There's only so much empathy we can show.

Whatever you're complaining about, can be fixed.

Poor grades? Put in more effort next time.
No money? Go find a job.
That boy in the hallway doesn't notice you? Well of course he doesn't if you don't take the initiative to say hi.

If you sit around all day complaining, that doesn't do you any good now, does it? Get up and try and find a solution to your problem instead of going off about it to your mates every time. I'm sure they're sick of hearing it too.

Some things you complain about might be sensitive to others. Bear in mind the other person's story and if you don't know their story, I suggest you don't say so much. You might be complaining about how restrictive and overprotective your mother is to a person whose mother might have just fallen really sick. You'll come across as insensitive and I'm sure we don't want that.


This might be a good time to bring up the phrase "Think before you speak." Sometimes, what you're complaining about might hurt the other person unintentionally.

Let's say you buy your girlfriend a dress that cost $100 just because you want to surprise her. But you keep saying things such as "You know how many hours I have to work for that dress?" and "I'll have to skip lunch the next few days because I don't have much money left." You keep talking about it and even if you meant it in a joking manner, do you have any idea how much that'll hurt the other party? It'll seem as though you bought it reluctantly and you weren't serious about it at all. You'll make the other person feel guilty even though it was your gift. So don't add a price tag to things given and done out of goodwill. 


Of course, these are my own opinions and viewpoints and I would just like to remind you, there is no right or wrong opinion. Everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion and if you don't like to conform to other people's opinion, I suggest you don't make others conform to yours.

Lots of Sugar

Nicabeth