Like: You see that new boy. Your heart speeds up. You get twitchy. You feel the cliche "butterflies in your stomach". You suddenly feel so conscious of yourself. You're nervous. You think "OMG is he coming this way? How do I look? Is he looking at me? OMG no way he IS looking at me. Oh no should I smile? Should I act cool? No, I don't want to do that, it might put him off oh no he's coming oh no what do I DO????".
Congrats, you're in Like. Or also known by it's other name, Infatuation. You spend all day and night dreaming about him, doodling his name and yours, and basically just hoping for a chance to be with him. Yep, you're in Like, all right.
But what's the difference between Like and Love? If you like someone, chances are you have a crush on them too. You gaze at him from afar, you hope and long and yearn. But in 2 months time, another guy comes along and BAM you forget about this one. That's infatuation for you. You get so crazy, so high, so excited over someone that you yearn for that person.
Honestly, infatuation is a scary thing. It may drive you mad. When I was 9, I liked this chap called Benjamin. (God knows why). I was a mini crazy little stalker lady. I remember waiting for his bus just for a chance to see him. Back then, I knew it was Like. I didn't Love him.
Then when I was 11, I met this boy called Bryan and I fell in Like with him because he was hot. He was a handsome little 12 year old and I would always wish that he would talk to me. We were in the same group at this learning centre. I only liked him because he was hot. I didn't know anything else about him and I would get crazy excited when he talked to me. (Back then, my replies were probably mostly. "uhhhh.....yeahhhh....." *you're so hot omg*) Then when I was 12, I fell in Love with his best friend. (Go me.) My 12 year old mind processed it as love. I thought it was. He was the first person I ever truly cared for. He was a bit of a rebel and a bad boy and I was helping him change. He kept saying that he didn't want to drag me down with him but I didn't care. We were best friends and I wanted to stay by him. Oh, and did I mention I fell in Love with this boy over text? (Yay me.) The things Cupid puts you through huh?
Lust: Lust is a little easier to describe. You see someone and suddenly there's this ball of sizzling fire in your stomach. You want that person. You want him. There's this instant chemistry when your eyes meet and you feel something, you don't know what, coursing through your veins. There's this undeniable BURN in everywhere. You're drawn to that person. You're the little fish drawn to that tasty bait.
That person's probably hot. Maybe he has a nice body or maybe she has a nice rack. You have the hots for them and there's no denying it. But how do you confuse this with Love?
You think it's love. I tell you it's not. (We'll get to that in a bit). Lust doesn't have to mean sex. It could even be wanting to put your arm around her shoulder or wanting to sit on his lap. It could be something simple such as hugging goodbye all the time. You just want to touch them. You want the skin-on-skin contact. That's Lust. You think how nice it would be to touch them, not sexually, just maybe on the hand or shoulder or arm.
I think people who flirt by touching are driven by Lust. Yes, one of the most effective flirt techniques is to touch them gently on the arm or hand to show your interest. I don't deny that but honestly, there's a difference.
Love: The difference between Love and Lust. Love is a connection between souls. Lust is a fire, a burning desire, in your soul.
Love is a connection. When you meet someone, you feel that connection and it feels like it's imploding inside of you. You'll know that there's something about this person that you just can't put a finger to but your soul calls you to theirs. Love is a fire too, yes, but it's not a burning desire. It's a calm giant that radiates waves of attraction. Love is a magnet that draws you to the other person and likewise. You can't explain it, it just happens. If you don't get these feelings, it's probably Like.
But when you really truly fall in Love, there isn't anyone else besides the two of you. The only thing that matters in the whole wide world is you two. The connection is so strong you start to see things from his eyes, you start to feel things from his heart. When you're in love, you give them a little part of yourself and in return, they give you a little part of them.
Even if you split, that part of them is still inside you and it can never be removed. Whether you truly Loved him or not, it will forever be inside you.
Honestly, it's not easy to differentiate between the three especially when you're so caught up in the moment of things. My ex and I, well, I think it was a battle between Lust and Love and both were trying to outdo each other. It was a fierce battle and we tired easily and quickly.
But right now, I know wholeheartedly that what my boyfriend, Nathaniel and I have now is Love.
You can't stop Love but you can stop Like.
Love is a connection but Lust is a desire.
I am no expert and I would like to hear your opinion on this post. What are your thoughts on this? Did I miss something out that you think I should have most definitely included? Leave me a comment, drop me a message. As always, think with your mind, live to your heart's desire and love wholeheartedly with your soul.
Lots of Sugar,
Nicabeth
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