I mean, if your partner is fine with you sharing all the details, then by all means. But some people I know have absolutely no idea that their partner is spilling all the secrets they shared, all the deeds they did. And let me ask you, is that right?
Let's have a case scenario and we'll call them John and Mary. Default names for a default story hahaha. So Mary confides all her secrets in John. She expects him to keep her secrets because that's what any boyfriend, scratch that, that's why any friend is expected to do. But instead, John goes around to all his mates and tells them all of Mary' secrets without her permission. Whenever they have some hanky-panky going on, the first thing he does is go around to his friends and boast about his conquest. (And he tells them everything - from her bush to what she does on him) Trust me, we really don't want to know.
Maybe it's a guy thing. I don't know, I'm not a guy. Maybe guys go around boasting to their mates about this kind of thing. (Do y'all really?)
Whatever happens in the bedroom should bloody be kept in the bedroom. I for one, really really don't want to know what you have been up to last Saturday night and I would appreciate if you spare me the details. Gross.
I am relatively surprised that some people don't understand the concept of privacy. Secrets aside, whatever happens between you two should stay between you two unless both of you agree you a) Would like to hear other people's input if you're having difficulties solving it on your own or b) Don't mind sharing. But if either one does not consent, you're supposed to keep it to yourself.
Maybe he's the boastful kind, he needs to tell other about what he's done otherwise he can't sleep at night. If that's the case, do you really want to be stuck with someone like that for the rest of your lives? Ok, maybe you won't mind if he tells his friends (and maybe yours) that you still sleep with your teddy bear. But are you ok with the fact that he also might be telling them how sometimes you don't shave down there and he hates going down on you? (I think you'd rather him tell you instead of hearing him tell everyone else)
Some things should be settled within the two parties. Only when it can't and both parties agree, then should you see the need to seek "outside help" (friends, parents, rellies, whatever.) But if it's small stuff, I think you're just fine there.
I am no expert and I would like to hear your opinion on this post. What are your thoughts on this? Did I miss something out that you think I should have most definitely included? Leave me a comment, drop me a message. As always, think with your mind, live to your heart's desire and love wholeheartedly with your soul.
Lots of Sugar,
Nicabeth
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