Relationships: How easy is easy?

Recently, I had a friend come up to me and say "I didn't think relationships were so difficult. How do you make it look so easy?"

I laughed at that. Firstly, relationships aren't supposed to be easy. If it's easy, you're doing something wrong. Being in a relationship means a connection between two hearts and not only do you have to fufill the wants of your own heart, you also have to fill the heart of your partner. So of course it's not going to be easy.

There will be arguments. There will be fights. There will be fights so bad that it makes you cry and leaves him wanting to punch a wall. There will be disagreements. There will be squabbles. A relationship isn't supposed to be easy.

If you had the mindset that relationships were easy, I hate to break it to you but I don't think you're ready for one just yet. It's a little like bungee jumping. You hand the other person the knife and trust he doesn't stab you in the back with it. So, no. Not easy at all.

A relationship is based on effort. Yes, there's the love and chemistry and the passion and all that but that will die down eventually. And when that does, what's left to keep your relationship alive? You put effort into your relationship. You water it day by day with love, fertilize it with hope and faith and one day it'll bear fruit. Just, probably not tomorrow. It may take weeks, months, years even. But if you want to see it bear fruit, you need to be there to watch.

I've been blessed with a very understanding partner. We see eye to eye (on most things) and whatever arguments we may have are kept between the two of us. It's just the two of us, in this world, watering this seed that we've planted together. We put in effort, we want to see it grow. And we want to BE there to watch it blossom.

Then again, relationships aren't supposed to be crazy difficult either. If you're fighting every 5 seconds, if you're even doubting the reason why you're still in it, then, really, why are you? It's not supposed to make you you cry yourself to sleep, I'm sure you know that much. It's not supposed to make you wonder "why you?" in a negative light.

A relationship isn't supposed to be anything. It just is.

I am no expert and I would like to hear your opinion on this post. What are your thoughts on this? Did I miss something out that you think I should have most definitely included? Leave me a comment, drop me a message. As always, think with your mind, live to your heart's desire and love wholeheartedly with your soul. 

Lots of Sugar,

Nicabeth