Love is a choice

The same ol' signs show up again. He/She stops replying your texts, stops calling you. You wonder if something is wrong; is it something you might have said? You hang on, maybe he/she needs some space to sort out their feelings. You talk to your friends and you talk to theirs and they give you their two cents worth but it all boils down to the same thing.

And then it happens. He/She messages you, calls you The whole "it's not you, it's me.". You ask what went wrong. The answer comes back. He/She "doesn't feel the love anymore." You're left wondering what the fuddgity fudge just happened. He/She doesn't have feelings for you anymore....?

Bull, I say. If you made the choice to enter a relationship in the first place, you can make the choice to stay. Love is a choice, that's my emphasis for this entry. The feeling of love might run out eventually. Ask your family, your attached friends. How many of them still feel the same way they felt during their first week, month, year together? But they're still together, aren't they? So how are they still together if "there's no more feeling?"

Choice. They made the choice to stay committed to their partner. They chose their partner and their partner chose them. It's tiring to start all over from scratch again and I daresay all you'd really want is to find someone to settle for and who'll settle for you.

If you were matured enough to make the choice to enter a relationship in the first place, I don't see why you're suddenly immature enough to leave just because "feelings faded". Or immature enough to choose to leave first rather than try and fix or enrich it.

I am no expert and I would like to hear your opinion on this post. What are your thoughts on this? Did I miss something out that you think I should have most definitely included? Leave me a comment, drop me a message. As always, think with your mind, live to your heart's desire and love wholeheartedly with your soul. 

Lots of Sugar,

Nicabeth